SO, I am reading that it only becomes sinful and wrong when we handle our anger incorrectly. Have you ever sat and thought what makes you angry, and further, WHY you got angry?
We feel angry when our sense of justice or right and wrong is attacked; or we perceive it has been attacked.(that may be the same thing...hmmmm) It can be a reasonable sense of justice or our own skewed justice born from things we have stored too long without handling it. The feeling is not wrong...it is a built in warning system that something is not right somewhere...and that is a good thing!! It becomes wrong when we do something sinful as retaliation or too quick a reaction. It then becomes a GAME. You know the scenario...someone gets angry and they say something ugly, or DO something ugly either to someone else or ourselves. THEN the person you said or did something to retaliates or you hurt yourself in some way and have some consequences from it...and on it goes UNTIL you either loose everything you love (which could even be your life) or you decide you want to be still and listen to God (Psalm 46:10a...be still and know that I am God) and break that cycle or end the game.
I used to react from anger all the time. I remember one time in a fight with my boyfriend on the phone and he said things that made me angry so I literally threw the phone across the room! OK, the consequence was I had to buy a new phone, and I freaked out my boyfriend and had to work hard to apologize and change my reactions to show that my apology was sincere. That was goofy! What good did that do??? It is just a simple example of anger turned outward and how silly, wrong, and full of consequences it is!
James 1:19 "My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man's anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desires. Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you"
Acting out in anger isn't the answer. We've all done it I am sure...and we've all been so miserable in it, I am equally as sure...so it is our CHOICE to either stay in that anger game, or find out what is eating at our souls that makes us stuck, asking God to help us understand what HIS truth is about us, and moving forward. Not always an easy task, but SO REWARDING when we see the awesomeness of God and how He can heal our hurts that get us stuck and help us find our way to a life free of those chains!!