IN THE PATH OF A LIE
We all have done it, right? It's no big deal...a little white lie, right? I'm not hurting anyone...what they don't know won't hurt them, right? There are worse things, right? What I say is none of any one's business, RIGHT?
Can't you just hear the modern day excuses...in a time when we seem to be moving back to ME, ME, ME! At a time when we are flooded by technological this and that. So much deception, so much violence, so much of every abominable anything goes...humans tend to become desensitized, and so after all we see and hear a "little ole lie" seems almost like a gift given to that lucky recipient of deception. It "protects" them, RIGHT?... WRONG!
It must seem to some that I am just nit picking...making something big out of something "no big deal". Isn't that what a liar often uses as an excuse to the one lied to? IT'S NO BIG DEAL". What does that really mean, "it's no big deal"? Well, since I'm the author of this I'll speak from experience. It means it is no big deal to the liar...it means they want their deception to be overlooked, it means they care more about themselves than they do about the recipient of the "gift" of protection from the "ugly truth". Oh how the liar tries to excuse their behavior...
The truth of the matter is there IS NO EXCUSE. And further, it is a sin that needs to be corrected, because the TRUTH of the matter is the collateral damage of a lie is HUGE so much of the time. It breeds mistrust. It shakes the reality of the one being lied to. It can shape the way the innocent party often deals with others, due to the broken trust. It can often have life long consequences.
God hates a liar.
Read the strong language of Proverbs 6:16-19 "there are 6 things that the Lord hates, 7 that are an abomination to Him, haughty eyes, a lying tongue, (oops, that's number two...and for those of you who have been lied to haven't you just seen those haughty eyes from the liar?), and hands that shed innocent blood,a heart that devises wicked plans,feet that make haste to run to evil, a false witness who breathes out lies (there is that word again), and one who sows discord among brothers.
Proverbs 19:5 "a false witness will not go unpunished, and he who breathes out lies will perish." This is where we understand that God is going to take care of the liar. It is for Him to decide what the ultimate punishment will be. HOWEVER, there are natural consequences for a liar on this earth...it could mean loss of job, marriage, friendships, but at the very least loss of trust of the person he/she lied to.
There are always natural consequences in the wake of a lie. Unfortunately the one lied to often lives some natural consequences FROM the one who lied...Let me paint a picture of what happens to a person that has been lied to...First of all, it depends on how close the two involved are...often, the closer the two are the stronger the consequences. IF the two involved are close...say married or family, the damage can be much worse. WHY?...BECAUSE with the close nature of the relationship there is implied trust, love perhaps...a bond of some sort, and when someone lies it damages those bonds...perhaps even breaks them at least for a time. Physically the one lied to, that learns of the lie, will often feel symptoms of fear...you know, the desire to get away, the sick feeling in the pit of the stomach that signals something is very wrong, blood rushes to your head making it hard to hear, shaking of the extremities, feeling hot or uncomfortable in your body,heart pounding hard. Those are just the immediate...and then the emotional toll...sadness, anger, sorrow, depression, the feeling that everything is somehow out of focus. YES, all effects from discovering a lie.
Colossians 3: 9-10 "do not lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the old self with its practices and have put on the new self which is renewed in knowledge after the image of its creator."
Ephesians 4:25 "Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are members of one another."
There is more written about lies and their consequences, and how God feels about it...just type liar in your search engine...It's all there...
Being in the path of a lie is horrible. Being lied to is like being slapped in the face, or punched in the stomach. We don't deserve to be lied to, it hurts, it damages!
For the one who lies to someone it is up to YOU to make it right. Be honest, be adult! Don't put another one of your fellow human beings through a bad time because you want to deceive. A lie may have damage written all over it, but the only way out of the harshest of consequences for you and for one you may care about is to make it right by being honest and asking for forgiveness of the one you hurt. Then, and only then will God give you the grace of forgiveness...and, the one you lied to, if you are sincere will be much more able to forgive and move forward. Proverbs 10:9 "The man of integrity walks securely, but he who takes crooked paths will be found out."
Posted by Saundra Lane Galloway